Tips on Dating for Men

Is It Fun or Feel like Work Meeting Women?

10:57, 2008-Jun-16 .. 0 comments .. Link

Is meeting women feels like a WORK to you?

And how does it feel that despite of all your hard work you're still not getting the success you're looking for?

If you agreed to those questions, then you may continue reading.

In fact, dating game can be quite frustrating.

You see a girl you like, but she has a boyfriend.

You think everything is going great with a girl and she stops returning your calls.

Aside from the fact that as the guy you are the one that do everything in order to move things forward.

In your approach, you have to have the courage.

First off, you need to keep you conversation moving, then you have to escalate physically, you have to get her number or much better you have to figure out a logistical way to take her home, YOU have to plan the date.

Men are much higher than women when it comes to the standards of behavior.

(Don't get me started on that...let's just think that girls are allowed to get away with sub-par behavior just because they are "pretty.")

It can be pretty exhausting, especially if you're not "extroverted" by nature.

...I just had a client who often complained of "extroversion fatigue."

I exactly knew what he meant about because I used to struggle with it before.

Before I started to teach myself about pick-up, and then found myself being mentally DRAINED after talking to three or four women.

I would have to sit down and rest!

I am working hard than I was in my full time job instead of having some fun and relax in those situation. Now you see how strange it is.

I would go home and be absolutely DEAD

... from having a CONVERSATION WITH WOMEN!

Does that make any sense???

And there was the overall, general fatigue. The emotional ups and downs, the discouraging results, the effort I had to make just to get women to hang out with me or to sleep with me.

It is just like I am having an overtime in my full-time job!

The first time I got into this game I had force myself to go out and pickup ALL DAY for days on end. (I was a nerd, I admit that, and had pushed it to the extreme.)

All I can say is that I have this passion in learning those stuff (very eager for the outcome after years of sensual frustration)

I am pushing myself just like an athletes that pushes themselves to the gym

I was working muscles or to be more precise I was forming NEW NEUROPATHWAYS, that I had never used before

If you are working too hard in your interactions with women. then you can relate to any of this.

There are three reasons for this.

Socially proactive is the first reason that may be new to you.

I recall when I first started lifting weights, I didn't have upper pectoral muscles - the muscle at the top of your chest just under your clavicle that make your chest look big.

Actually I did, but they were so small and weak, it took a good three weeks to even begin to feel them. Every time I worked them out I was incredibly sore and could barely move my arms.

And then I reached a tipping point of sorts, where the muscle was developed enough that I could handle big amounts of weight without all the soreness and fatigue. Your mind is the same way.

Developing your new neuro-pathways will take time. So with the level of your skills, you need to push yourself harder from day-to-day.

Another reason you may feel social fatigue is because you think there's too much to do or learn when meeting women.

Actually this is more on having an overwhelmed feeling and has somewhat a little different from "fatigue."

Being overwhelmed by certain thing can cause exhaustion to your mind that can lead to some sort of discouragement and depression. It's somewhat saying "ugh, I've had enough of this too much. I'm giving up"

I have suffered from this feeling before when I was taking notes of a lot of theories. And as I looked what I've write, I see that I am just looking at the complicated thing just like a complex physics equation.

It was discouraging to think that I had to do almost all the needed things just to get a good quality of women.

The last reason for feeling exhausted in the dating and mating game is that you are spending too much mental energy in the wrong places, wasting your focus on stuff that isn't useful to pickup.

Many men fails in attracting women and in fact almost 99% of men gets it wrong. Usually the women can't tell because most men after a harsh rejections learn to keep their inner "stuff" to their self.

But of course we can't oppose to the reality that when a guy is attracted to a girl, he is trying his best just to win her or at least know if the women likes him too.

Think about the messages we get from the media, our parents and friends, and women - it's the man's role to IMPRESS the woman and EARN "getting in bed" from her.

So Pathetic!

I hate seeing an advertisement of a guy that bumbling around a cute girl trying to impress her, even though he looks like a fool while the girl giggles like she's better than him because she's a girl.

Ok enough ranting... the point is that most guys are screwed when it comes to being in control of their dating lives.

But if a guy takes the time to adjust the way his MIND works when it comes to attraction, it changes everything.

Once you get to highest level of your interaction with women, you will truly be attractive to them. You just need to be at your best both physically and emotionally.

A MAN AT HIS BEST.
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